What if We Chose to Be Here?

It seemed like a simple question, but the more I pondered it the more I recognized it was rewriting how I told my story. For years, I’ve said, “I think I chose to be here” and in a recent conversation with a friend, I turned it around and said, “What if we all chose to be here?”


It rearranges everything we’ve been focusing on. A few things fall from this premise and it is interesting to explore them, knowing full well the premise may be faulty. So, first, the most obvious is that if we “chose” we must have existed. Which, pretty much means we must exist after this body dies because we had to come from somewhere and we just go back. This is going back to a place from where we could chose what we want to experience.

There are many religions that have spoke to the range of possibilities, from returning here in a better or worse situation; living forever in a new reality that is either good or bad; or simply not existing after we are here. Truth is, no one knows for sure, but lets just stick with the possibility that we chose to be here for a while.



Believing we exist after we die,

has the power to eliminate all of the fear

of our own death.



When we no longer exist here, if we knew we existed somewhere else, it would make death a whole lot less frightening. Not necessarily for those we leave behind who suffer the loss of our presence and the emotional impact of losing someone you love, but for us, ourselves.

The idea that we may actually be able to choose to do this again, or that we might choose another set of parameters gives this inevitability known as death a whole new interpretation. It becomes more of a transition, a change in our reality, a new opportunity to chose to experience another life in an incalculable number of paradigms of reality.

You being you, even before you had the body you are in now, decided to experience life here. It allows us to refocus on the idea we wanted to come here and perhaps we should be exploring that instead of just getting by in a day. Why did you chose to be here? What did you want to experience, do, see, be involved in? You bought the ticket, and decided to go for the ride. What were you hoping you would get a chance to do? Trying to remember who you are and what your motivation was is a good place to start.

Even if this premise is wrong, and the only way to test it is to die, it has the power to allow us to think about life differently. We can look around with new eyes and see the world in a different way. A way that emphasizes why we would want to be here, what we enjoy and how we want to live.

Consider it for a moment. Is it possible you chose to be here? Perhaps, not in the exact situation you are in, but using a card game as an analogy, you decided to play cards and now you are faced with the hand you were dealt. How would you live differently if you no longer were preoccupied with prolonging your life, avoiding death and instead focused on the good things you enjoy around you?

It becomes possible to let go of the fear. We know we are going to die and if that is not a bad thing, we can now focus on living the most satisfying life we can imagine.

Our Thoughts Create Our Perception of the World

IMG_2510As intelligent beings we believe that our brains know it all. They have built great cities, designed amazing gadgets and tackled some of the most incurable diseases. But, they do not always steer us in the right direction. How we experience our lives is largely determined by the stories that we tell ourselves about what is happening.

Consider this, one woman is offended and feels like she is being subjugated, while the other tells herself that she has the right to be treated well. The inciting event was a man held a door for these two women.

The experience that each woman had was very different. By deciding that she was being belittled and treated like a lesser human, the one woman felt offended when the man held the door. The other woman felt cared for.

Moments comprise our entire existence. How we feel in the majority of moments dictates our experience of life. Each of the women told themselves a story about the event. Neither was true. The only facts here are that a man opened a door and two ladies walked through. The interpretation is just the story that they told themselves. How they experienced this one moment in their lives was totally determined by the story that they told themselves about it.

It might not even end here. The woman that disliked the gesture might tell stories about it to her friends and think about how she should have responded. She might spend hours feeling like she had been slighted….This entire scenario speaks to how she feels. It is all created by her thoughts.

We have no way of knowing what the man was thinking. It may not have even registered that the other people were women. He may have just been closer to the handle and knew it would be easier to open the door and let the others through.

Take the time today to notice your thoughts. Are they true? Do they serve you? Do they cause you stress or unhappiness? Moments comprise our entire lives. Pay attention to how you are choosing to experience them.